\nI feel overwhlemed when plans are made for me that I’m not aware of. What I need is to be included in decisions when it comes to my social calendar.<\/td>\n I don’t care that you said we would go. I’m not going.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table><\/div>\n <\/p>\n
Learn to Say No<\/h4>\n “No” is a complete sentence. So why is it so hard to say?<\/p>\n
For many people, saying “no” is packed with guilt. You may be afraid of disappointing someone, or even growing up, saying “no” may have been considered backtalk and sometimes even lead to negative reinforcement. However,\u00a0 you should work on the ability to say “no,” as it is an appropriate and positive response.<\/p>\n
By just saying “no” you aren’t providing any emotional labor for the benefit of others, which can benefit your own personal health and well-being.<\/p>\n
Some reasons you should say no:<\/p>\n \n \n \n \n \n If you feel uncomfortable\n <\/div>\n\n
\n \n <\/path>\n <\/svg>\n <\/span>\n <\/button>\n\n \n \n Nobody knows your limits better than you do. If you are asked to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, it could be a sign that you need to say no.\n\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n
\n \n \n You feel guilty or obligated\n <\/div>\n\n
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In a work situation, it can be particularly difficult to say no. Your job may require you to oblige when superiors\u00a0delegate tasks to you. But that doesn\u2019t mean your time and energy are less valuable than theirs.<\/p>\n
Use your\u00a0self-advocacy skills\u00a0to step up and say no. Your decision should not be based on guilt or obligation.<\/p>\n\n\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n \n \n \n When you're overloaded\n <\/div>\n\n
\n \n <\/path>\n <\/svg>\n <\/span>\n <\/button>\n\n \n \n If you are overloaded with work, say no to more tasks or projects. Wait until you\u2019ve freed up some time and energy before you take on anything new. Keep in mind that saying no to yourself is just as important as saying no to others. Putting pressure on yourself only adds to your\u00a0stress and anxiety. Make sure to prioritize your\u00a0mental health\u00a0and\u00a0physical health\u00a0to avoid\u00a0burnout.\n\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n
\n \n \n If the request crosses your personal boundaries\n <\/div>\n\n
\n \n <\/path>\n <\/svg>\n <\/span>\n <\/button>\n\n \n \n When someone asks you to do something that crosses\u00a0your boundaries, it is important to stop the process in its tracks and say no. Your boundaries are worth standing up for.\u00a0\n\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n
\n \n \n If you are only saying yes to please someone else\n <\/div>\n\n
\n \n <\/path>\n <\/svg>\n <\/span>\n <\/button>\n\n \n \n While pleasing others is a natural incentive for performing tasks, it shouldn\u2019t be the only reason you work hard. If pleasing someone else comes at the cost of your own\u00a0happiness and well-being, it isn\u2019t worth it.\u00a0\u00a0\n\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n\n
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Safeguard Your Spaces<\/h4>\n You can also set boundaries for your stuff, physical and emotional spaces, and your time and energy without actually announcing it, too.<\/p>\n
The features on your tech devices offer some ways of doing this. Try some of these tips:\nPut private items in a locked drawer or box.<\/li>\n Use password-protected digital journals instead of a paper one.<\/li>\n Schedule along time or time when you’re just doing your own thing.<\/li>\n Use passwords, codes, or other security features on devices or accounts.<\/li>\n Set a cut-off time for answering emails, texts, or calls.<\/li>\n Use the “out of office” feature on email.<\/li>\n Temporarily delete emails and messaging apps when you don’t want to be contacted.<\/li>\n Use the Do Not Disturb feature on your phone and other devices.<\/li>\n Make a promise to yourself not to respond to messages or calls during certain times or from certain people.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Setting Boundaries in College Adapted from heathline.com “The No BS Guide to Protecting Your Emotional Space” What are boundaries? Boundaries are limits that you set with others, and they are essential to healthy relationships. Boundaries can be mental, physical, or emotional. Practicing the skill of setting boundaries with certain people, like close friends and family,<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":946,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-526","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/526","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/946"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=526"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/526\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":660,"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/526\/revisions\/660"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.marshall.edu\/student-conduct\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=526"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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<\/a>Boundaries are limits that you set with others, and they are essential to healthy relationships. Boundaries can be mental, physical, or emotional. Practicing the skill of setting boundaries with certain people, like close friends and family, can be tough to navigate, but are important for success in life, including your time at Marshall University. You can set boundaries for a variety of things, including:<\/p>\n