Characteristics of a Stalker

The Profile Of A Stalker

Relationship to victim: Sometimes they are prior intimate partners, but more often the stalker desires a relationship with an acquaintance.

Obsessed: They constantly think about or fantasize about the victim. The fantasies can be love oriented or angry and vengeful.

Rejected: Many stalkers have a history of failed relationships or have trouble communicating with others.

Intelligent: Most stalkers are intelligent and they carefully plan their stalking behavior. Most just lack social skills.

Motivated: Stalkers can be motivated by thinking that their victim is the only one they can ever love or they want revenge against someone who hurt them.

Common Stalker Characteristics

  • Jealous
  • Manipulative
  • Narcissistic
  • Deceptive
  • Obsessive and compulsive
  • Falls instantly in love
  • Socially awkward or uncomfortable
  • Needs to be in control
  • Depends on others for sense of self
  • Unable to cope with rejection
  • Sense of entitlement (you owe me!)
  • Unable to take NO for an answer
  • Does not take responsibility for own feelings or actions.

(Information in this section taken from West Virginia Foundation for Rape Information and Services,